I’ve been through a real slump lately. It’s hard to keep my energy up, especially when I’m not seeing dramatic results.
HOWEVER, all is not lost. I have learned some things about myself and I think the more self-aware you the more productive you can be. It’s like being a mechanic and trying to fix a car. If you know how the car is built and what it needs you can get it going quicker and more efficiently than if you’ve never seen under the hood of a car and randomly hit things with a spanner hoping it will spring into life.
Lesson 1) I’m ridiculously easy to overwhelm.
Answer: Break things down in to really small chunks. Recognise small achievements. Stop trying to do so much.
Lesson 2) I’m very impatient
Answer: Look to the greats and see how long it took them. Or re-read my post on Patience and Perseverance.
Lesson 3) NO ONE is going to give me ‘permission’ to do the things I want to do.
Answer: Stop waiting for permission and make it happen.
This is what I want to focus on now. So far on my journey a lot of people have said ‘That is not possible/realistic’. Some people are supportive and tell me to go for it. My mentors (via courses/books/websites/blogs) are saying ‘We’ve already done it and so can you!’
I’m thinking it’s possible because they’ve told me and they’ve given me indirect permission to chase dreams. However, whenever I have a new idea I always look to see if it’s been done before and if it hasn’t I mope and bite my bottom lip and wish I had someone to talk to about it.
Tonight, as I got out my car, I was enjoying another mini taste of freedom. I was on my own, was doing what I wanted, when I wanted and how I wanted. Walking back to my flat I felt like my freedom was dissolving around me as I heard the usual neighbours shouting angrily at each other, a baby crying somewhere and music blaring. I started feeling trapped again and worried about the future and when I could finally move to a nicer neighbourhood and be free.
Then something occurred to. I need to STOP asking for permission, even from the people I admire. Just because something hasn’t been done (YET!) doesn’t mean it can’t be done at all. Maybe someone else who tried it didn’t have what I have, maybe the time wasn’t right, the audience wasn’t ready or the resources not available. I realised that in some ways I was holding myself back. This is not a new idea, many other people have thought of it before me. But I am also learning that unless an idea strikes you just right and you learn it for yourself, it doesn’t influence you as much.
I need to STOP:
- asking for permission
- restricting my thinking
- listening to negative people
- thinking I need to be given the green light to even try
- trying to conform to other people’s expectations
- trying to do things the way everyone else does them
Who is anyone else to give me permission to chase my goals?!
For about 7 years I’ve had this urge to write a motivational book. One thing I love to do is encourage people to make the most of their time, talents, skills and life in general. When I was 19, it hit me how short and precious life is and since then I’ve wanted to help other people realise this too and get the most out of their time.
The only problem is, I’m not some legendary motivational speaker with a ton of stories to back up my points. Nor am I particularly successful (yet). I thought to myself, who on earth will listen to somebody like me? Then I realised two things. One, this book idea isn’t going anywhere. It’s like indigestion. I’ll be going about my normal day life and then it rears its head and stops me in my tracks and I have to take note. Two, the author of ‘Think and Grow Rich’, Napoleon Hill, was not a rich or conventionally successful man himself. He simply investigated what successful people did and wrote it down into a book.
Therefore, strand two of my journey to freedom will be this book. My desire for it will be to encourage people, to inspire people and get them excited about their lives. I want to throw in some motivational science and theories I’ve learnt about that will help people propel themselves forward.
So, if you have any stories of what you’ve done to achieve any amount of success or fulfilment in your life, do let me know and I’ll add it to the book. Also, I’ll be using you guys for accountability purposes. I will struggle to finish this book on my own (somewhere I have 8000 words of a book I started about five years ago that I didn’t finish).
New York Best Sellers List, here I come!
After my last blog post, two of my friends commented straight away that they thought they were Scanners too. I decided to go searching for other Scanners and Free Range Fledglings in the blogosphere.
I found a few without even trying very hard and made contact. All the successful people I’ve listened to have said to surround yourself with people who share your goals and visions with. I’ve got to the point after 31 years of listening to people who do not have the life they truly desire that I’m going to listen to the people who do have that kind of life. No offence guys, but I’d rather you think I’m unrealistic and naive and end up living the life of my dreams than be miserable for the next 40 years having listened to your advice. Feel free to keep telling me that stuff. I have a response for you:
I’ve mentioned in other posts the sort of thing I’d like to have in terms of career freedom. Just to give you an idea of the kinds of interests I have see below:
Book writing (I have 4 book ideas rolling around my brain)
Card writing (There aren’t enough sarcastic cards out there)
Sketch Comedy (Kristen Wiig is my hero)
Stand Up Comedy (it seems like fun)
Selling T-Shirts (researching copyright law is giving me a headache so if you already sell t-shirts, or know someone who loves researching that stuff, hit me up!)
Motivational Speaking (I’m already doing it, might as well get paid for it)
Song Writer (Lyrics not music…..so if you write music, let me know!)
Career Coach (Highly qualified and I have a sign in my bedroom that I made myself that I’m the world’s greatest careers advisor)
Photographer (Maybe Pink is looking for one!?)
Video Editer (Maybe Pink is looking for one!? Or Kate McKinnon. Or Kristen Wiig. Or Melissa McCarthy)
And that’s just off the top of my head. That’s not even what I have in my book of ideas (there are some pretty good ones in there).
So Scanners and Free Rangers unite! Let’s go together confidently in the direction of our dreams!