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Lessons Learned

I’ve been through a real slump lately. It’s hard to keep my energy up, especially when I’m not seeing dramatic results.

HOWEVER, all is not lost. I have learned some things about myself and I think the more self-aware you the more productive you can be. It’s like being a mechanic and trying to fix a car. If you know how the car is built and what it needs you can get it going quicker and more efficiently than if you’ve never seen under the hood of a car and randomly hit things with a spanner hoping it will spring into life.

Lesson 1) I’m ridiculously easy to overwhelm.

Answer: Break things down in to really small chunks. Recognise small achievements. Stop trying to do so much.

Lesson 2) I’m very impatient

Answer: Look to the greats and see how long it took them. Or re-read my post on Patience and Perseverance.

Lesson 3) NO ONE is going to give me ‘permission’ to do the things I want to do.

Answer: Stop waiting for permission and make it happen.

 

This is what I want to focus on now. So far on my journey a lot of people have said ‘That is not possible/realistic’. Some people are supportive and tell me to go for it. My mentors (via courses/books/websites/blogs) are saying ‘We’ve already done it and so can you!’

I’m thinking it’s possible because they’ve told me and they’ve given me indirect permission to chase dreams. However, whenever I have a new idea I always look to see if it’s been done before and if it hasn’t I mope and bite my bottom lip and wish I had someone to talk to about it.

Tonight, as I got out my car, I was enjoying another mini taste of freedom. I was on my own, was doing what I wanted, when I wanted and how I wanted. Walking back to my flat I felt like my freedom was dissolving around me as I heard the usual neighbours shouting angrily at each other, a baby crying somewhere and music blaring. I started feeling trapped again and worried about the future and when I could finally move to a nicer neighbourhood and be free.

Then something occurred to. I need to STOP asking for permission, even from the people I admire. Just because something hasn’t been done (YET!) doesn’t mean it can’t be done at all. Maybe someone else who tried it didn’t have what I have, maybe the time wasn’t right, the audience wasn’t ready or the resources not available. I realised that in some ways I was holding myself back. This is not a new idea, many other people have thought of it before me. But I am also learning that unless an idea strikes you just right and you learn it for yourself, it doesn’t influence you as much.

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I need to STOP:

  • asking for permission
  • restricting my thinking
  • listening to negative people
  • thinking I need to be given the green light to even try
  • trying to conform to other people’s expectations
  • trying to do things the way everyone else does them

Who is anyone else to give me permission to chase my goals?!